Friday, June 27, 2008
Chapter 7 was a more abstract chapter about leadership theory and how current leadership discussions, and also some biblical discussions, open up the doors for introverts to lead effectively. Chapter 8 is a more practical look at how introverts can lead in the church in a way that is true to their natures. Without giving too much away, here are some topics I discussed:
1. The example of Moses, who had many struggles that parallel the experiences of introverts in leadership.
2. Self-care: what are the pitfalls introverted leaders face and how do we strike a healthy balance in ministry?
3. Introverted preaching
4. Sharing your life as a leader
5. Following Jesus' example of focusing on "the few"
6. Spiritual direction and applying the principles of spiritual direction to all of our ministry
7. Team leadership: introverts and extroverts leading together
8. Communicating with extroverts
Two chapters to go:
1. Chapter 9: introverts and evangelism
2. Chapter 10: introverts in church.
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
They didn't pay me for this promotion. But I hope they do.
Friday, June 20, 2008
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Take, for example, this one:
B. Characteristics and qualifications needed
Proven track record in the following areas of ministry as a:
• Lay leader – training and small groups
• Manager of programs, staff, volunteers and committees
• Team builder – compassionate and relational
• Motivator – energetic and visionary
• Encourager –transparent and humbleI mean nothing against this church at all - in fact it is a very good church - but it strikes me that they are looking for one person to be at least the equivalent of what perhaps three people could bring to the position. The "manager of programs" bullet point describes someone who fits what Barna calls "strategic leader" function. The team builder qualification fits, appropriately, the "team builder" function. And the motivator characteristic fits the "directing leader" function. Barna says that individual leaders major on one of these functions, yet this church (and so many others) seems to be searching for a pastor with multiple personality disorder.
And of course, I can't help noticing that this position sounds EXTREMELY extroverted.
Now playing: Coldplay - Low
Monday, June 16, 2008
1. Being married to an extrovert and all the joys and struggles that go into that. The truth is, if I were married to another introvert, I'm not sure how much conversation would take place! My wife definitely fills up the awkward silences.
2. Introverts and evangelism. That is the chapter that is up next, and my introverted pastor preached a sermon on it yesterday. There will be more to follow in this space about this topic.
3. Introverts and birthdays. Most of my friends throw parties for their birthdays. I like to go up to wine country with my wife, play some golf, take in the scenery, drink some wine, and enjoy the quiet.
4. Introverts and sports. I just finished watching the US Open, a fierce battle between Tiger Woods, intense introvert, and Rocco Mediate, chatty, affable extrovert. It was a very interesting dynamic - the crowd seemed pretty divided between the two. Rocco was accessible, whereas Tiger is passionate and unflappable.
5. Introverts and pets. I have realized how much my affinity for cats is related to my personality type. Cats are definitely introverts - they are happy by themselves, they usually run when encountering strangers but they are loyal and affectionate to their owners, and they are laid back and mellow.
Monday, June 9, 2008
Type Talk at Work, Kroeger,Thuesen, and Rutledge. 76
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Writing a book is like giving birth to a snarling 8 headed monster. It's so much more than sitting down in front of your laptop and typing. It's more like a war, as your own words and ideas battle you and each other. In writing your hopes, dreams, fears and inadequacies are exposed. You learn what it is you most want in life and how incompetent you are to actually achieve it.
I've written seven and a half chapters in my book now, and I've identified some patterns in the process, some phases that I invariably go through:
1. The "Aha" phase. This is the phase of researching, thinking, and interviewing. This is the phase of discovery, as I begin to see things I had not seen before. I have great synergistic moments as I talk with others and we find that we share thoughts, experiences, and hopes. I'll be reading a book and a sentence or a concept will practically shout out to me. I'll begin to believe that I have valuable things to say and that others will be interested.
2. The "Pulitzer Prize" phase. This is the phase of conceptualizing, organizing, and outlining. Inevitably I get here and my ego tries to leap out of my body and make itself known. Here I become convinced that my ideas are brilliant and my writing is profound. No one has ever written a book this sublime. N.T. Wright will read my book and say "Why didn't I think of that?!"
3. The "Total Incompetence" phase. This one follows about ten minutes on the heels of the Pulitzer Prize phase. I'll encounter the first obstacle in writing my chapter and my ego will not only find its way back into my body but shrink to 1/8th its normal size. This is where I will question everything I've ever known about the world and myself, including why in the world I thought I could write a book. This is where the dark scenarios creep in and I'll imagine my manuscript sitting in my editor's trash can, the smoke still floating off the singed pages. Or someone going to review my book and being unable to do so because the astonished tears of laughter keep him from being able to see straight.
4. The "Complete Disorientation" phase. Once I power through stage 3 and finish a draft of my chapter, I go to read it over and immediately move into this phase. My first draft tends to be very rough and practically stream of consciousness writing. If I don't know where something should go, I'll just write it anyway. So it feels like a bunch of random paragraphs that have no organic relationship to anything that comes before them or after. My head will be spinning as I try to read it over. This is the phase where I find myself cleaning my apartment a lot - my manuscript may be a mess, but dammit, my writing space will be clean!
5. The "It doesn't totally suck" phase. After rewriting several times, I get to a point where I think that maybe there are a few nuggets of insight in here and maybe a few people will actually want to read it. There is a small measure of contentment and sense of accomplishment here. Then, it's back to step one.
On that note, I'm entertaining this book title:
It Doesn't Totally Suck
by Adam S. McHugh
Monday, June 2, 2008
I'm still pounding the keys - I am about half way through chapter 8 now, with two more chapters to go and a whole bunch of revising before my deadline on August 30th. Interestingly, last month I was laid off from my job as a hospice chaplain, which was a bit of a surprise, but a wonderful gift for my writing progress. I wrote a chapter and a half in May and I'm writing about 5 pages a day now. I appreciate your feedback and prayers!